body oriented psychotherapy & coaching
in Amsterdam


My name is Neela Paulussen.

Stress and emotions don’t just happen in your head, they mainly happen in your body. That is my starting point. I work from a holistic perspective with connecting body, mind, emotions and consciousness. In the sessions that I offer, your question and your physical experience in the here and now guide the learning process. Taking your physical perception serious gives you a well of information about yourself.


It takes curiosity and courage to look at yourself and also to do this together with someone else. I am happy to support you in this. I offer you an honest and safe setting in which you can look at which new steps you want to take. I cannot give you answers, but I can facilitate you in finding your own.

A body aware approach

Sessions from the inside out

You feel with your body, not with your head. You don’t have to think about laughing, crying, longing, fleeing, fighting, letting go, loving. Although you often do. If your attention is mainly focused on what you think, less attention is paid to your body. And so you easily lose contact with your innate ability to move with what you feel. Thinking about what you feel can lead to understanding. And understanding is the way to acceptance.


But the mind is also used to ruminate, fast-forward and control emotions. We judge what we feel, we expect how we are going to feel, we have ideas about how we should feel, all with our heads. This often does not lead to more acceptance, but rather to additional unrest. In my opinion, your body is a better indicator than your head.


In body-oriented sessions we use the intelligence of the body and examine the language it speaks. Through a combination of talking, mindful awareness and bodywork, the body as a source of information is integrated into the sessions, making it possible to work with signals of stress where they live: namely in your body, in the here and now.

We often don’t realize how much our thoughts, emotions, and actions are affected by unconscious blueprints of what we’ve been through. But the body remembers what the conscious mind does not do. Often you react without knowing it to stressful situations in the here and now in the same way you react to stressful situations earlier in life. These unconscious memories are not written in words, but in the language of sensations, posture, gestures and the way we move. And these unconscious memories create patterns that limit the quality of our relationships and the way we are in the world.


Stress is primarily a physical process. It helps shape your character and is the root of most emotional problems. More and more psychological and non-psychological illnesses are known to be related to repressed emotions and tension. And we cannot always relax these just by talking about them, because words are simply not enough.


By listening to your body and learning to translate the language it speaks, we can bring to light the non-verbal story that lives just below the surface: the story that the body tells. This way you can use the signals from your body to gain a deeper understanding of yourself and the people around you. From contact with your authentic impulses, your natural emotion-regulating capacity is restored and you can create real, meaningful change.


Sessions are about meeting for me, which is why I pay a lot of attention to the connection between us. It is in contact with others that our deepest desires and also our deepest wounds are felt. I use my presence, experience and interest to support you in gaining clarity about what lives in you.

“There’s a crack in everything.

That’s how the light gets in.”

Leonard Cohen

Voor wie

  • Nieuwsgierigheid naar wat jou lijf je te vertellen heeft
  • Stress- en spanningsklachten
  • Als je hoofd luid is en dit je weghoudt bij wat er onder het oppervlak speelt.
  • Als praten niet helpt en je niet goed weet wat je voelt.
  • Emotionele problemen: angst, leegte, controle, perfectionisme, woede enz.
  • Als je weinig energie en flow ervaart, moe bent, klem zit, of weinig levenszin hebt.
  • Als je niet weet wat je wilt of je niet weet hoe je je verlangens kan uiten.
  • Als je behoefte hebt aan support voor een stukje verwerking.
  • Relatie- en bindingsproblemen: ben je bang voor de liefde of er juist verslaafd aan?
  • Sensualiteit: voel je je geremd of niet ontmoet?
  • Hoogsensitiviteit: voel je veel en raak je makkelijk overprikkeld?
  • Grenzen: zeg je bv. ja terwijl je nee bedoelt?
  • Conflicten: belandt je steeds in dezelfde, bv op je werk?
  • Rouw en verlies: wil je een luisterend oor?
  • Zingeving vraagstukken
  • Klimaat gerelateerde vraagstukken

Deze lijst is uiteraard niet volledig, ook met andere hulpvragen ben je welkom.

welk effect

  • meer vitaliteit, energie, levenszin
  • meer rust en ontspanning
  • meer intuïtie en innerlijke sturing
  • meer lichaamsbewustzijn
  • meer inzicht in je klachten
  • meer eerlijkheid, verbinding en autonomie in je relaties
  • meer helderheid over je grenzen
  • meer moed
  • meer (zelf)vertrouwen
  • meer veerkracht en draagkracht
  • meer authenticiteit
  • meer besluitvaardigheid
  • meer gronding (o.a. bij HSP)
  • meer overgave en berusting
  • meer eenvoud
  • meer vrijheid

Kortom, een diepere ervaring van voldoening. Hier en nu, belichaamd en bewust.