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Somatic Sexuality & Sexual Trauma Healing

“If we were to remove all of the social conditioning, the religious, racial and cultural messages forced on us, all of the generations of sexism, misogyny and shame, all the judgments and expectations of family and peers, and all the traumas we have experienced: who are we underneath all of it?

 

How would we inhabit our bodies in ways that reflect our true nature? How would we express and receive affection, sensuality and sexuality… on our terms… in our most genuine and authentic way? How do we recognize our desires, and attractions and identify what inhibits them? Are these real, or are these learned? What is a ideal relationship? What is the best way to break old patterns and move towards healthy intimacy? How would we identify? Where do we more accurately fall on the gender spectrum?

 

Ariel Giarretto and the Full Embodiment (FE) Model intend to help find ways to, and through, these questions. Decades in its formation—FE has been developed to support those who have been shamed, harmed or traumatized in relationship to their bodies, their gender/sex and to intimacy. It is especially suited for those who are reluctant to feel their bodies, who associate shame with pleasure, who have experienced sexual abuse, marginalization, sexual assault, gender or racial-based violence, bullying or religious oppression, as well as invasive medical procedures.”

 

This text comes from Ariel Giaretto’s website. In 2023/2025, I was trained in the Full Embodiment model and followed the Somatic Sexuality Healing Practitioner training with Ariel organised by Bodymind Opleidingen. I am now in the final phase of completing the training.

 

Photo: Brooke Balentine (unsplash)

Grief and loss

“Grief and love are sisters, woven together from the beginning. Their kinship reminds us that there is no love that does not contain loss and no loss that is not a reminder of the love we carry for what we once held close.”

 

 

Foto: Kelly Sikkema

Climate psychology

“Our house is on fire.” ~ Greta Thunberg

 

 

Foto: Noaa /unsplash

Instinct, strength en anger

“A terrible thing is lost in the suppression of anger – your relationship with one of your greatest allies: Instinct.”

 

 

Foto: Kazuky Akayashi

 

collective trauma & the cultural crisis

“Of all the dangers we face, from climate chaos to permanent war, none is so great as this deadening of our response.”

~Joanna Macy

 

Trauma occurs where vitality has come to a standstill. Trauma is not an individual problem; it is a social problem and it is systemic. It does not belong to an individual, but is relational and always occurs within a context.

 

Collective trauma occurs when groups of people dominate and others are excluded, when human rights are violated. Think of racism, colonialism, and sexism. The consequences lie like a layer of permafrost in the history of humanity (Thomas Hübl).

 

Many indigenous peoples see the interconnectedness. In modern Western culture, we have come to believe in the illusion of separateness and hyper-individualism. This culture lies at the roots of the climate and ecological crisis. This crisis is about injustice that is so interwoven in our culture that we hardly see it.

 

The people who contribute most to exacerbating the crisis are the least affected by its consequences. Climate disruption hits those who contribute the least the hardest, such as people in the global south, young people, people who are not even born yet, and species other than our own. We in the West live a life of privilege, which brings with it a responsibility to address injustice and do the right thing. Standing up against injustice stems from our concern for others.

 

If there is one thing that the climate and ecological crisis makes abundantly clear, it is that we are all connected. All life on Earth breathes the same air. All life is physically connected to and therefore also by the Earth. And everything that every human being contributes makes a difference. Healing collective trauma is everyone’s responsibility. We heal this when we can see and feel the other in ourselves.

 

Photo: Simon Berger

Basic needs

Every person has two basic needs: the need for contact, connection and love. And the need for authenticity, for expression of who you are. What happens if these basic needs are not (completely) met? Then you start suppressing emotions and you lose contact with yourself and your liveliness. Gabor Maté explains it clearly.