“And the day came

when the risk to remain tight in a bud

was more painful

than the risk it took to blossom.” ~Anaïs Nin

 

 

My name is Neela Paulussen (1975). I like this quote about daring to live life and the contractions that stop us. It is precisely this paradox between longing and fear that inspires me most. Because how do I do that, gather the courage to live life to the fullest? And how do I do that in contact with others? How can I be honest and meet someone without holding back, without hiding my vulnerability, without pretending to be something different, a little bigger, a little stronger, a little more independent? I know the desire for freedom and also the fear that holds me back. The search for answers started with myself.

 

I have learned to listen to what happens in me, to that what is whispering, under all that is loud. I’ve learned about splintering and helplessness, as well as about courage and strength. About taking myself seriously, here and now, instead of living my life from ideas about how I, or my life, should be like. I have learned to embrace that what is off, to be touched more, to enjoy more fully, to laugh harder and to love more deeply. I do this job because this is what I love to do most. It feels rich and meaningful to be able to support people in their growth process and their search for a more authentic, sincere and free life.

 

Climate justice and social equality are important to me. Climate change touches on deep spiritual themes such as life and death, meaning, acceptance, and who I choose to be in a changing world. I like to include this in the sessions, because this is the context in which we live. I am involved in several movements that focus on how climate change affects people, also as an activist.

 

I am a mother of 3 amazing sons who I co-parent with their father and our new partners. In relating with my partner, we explore how we can feel free in the inevitable tightness that intimate relationship also brings. Since 2016 I have my own practice in Amsterdam and I am also the founder of In de Naaikamer, a thriving sewing school. Since 1996 I have been trained in various ways in human functioning and personal growth, both grounded in Western science and Eastern wisdom.

NP Bloemendaal

Experience

Clinical Developmental Psychology / University of Amsterdam (1996 – 1999, finished the first 3 years)

Consciousness and non-dualism / o.a. Isaac Shapiro (2001 – nu)

Integrated Psychotherapy / BodyMind Opleidingen (2014 – 2019)

Trauma & Spirituality / 3 daagse masterclass met Peter Levine & Marianne Bentzen (2018)

PSBK: Psychosociale basiskennis / De Energieschool (2018 – 2019)

Climate psychology: Extinction Rebellion (2019) / Deep Adaptation Guidance (2020) / Climate psychologist

SE: Somatic Experiencing / A neurobiological body-oriented approach to healing trauma, in training (2019 – 2022)

NARM: Neuro Affective Relational Model / Attachment, Relational and Developmental Trauma, in training (2020 – 2022)

 

At the bottom of the website you find info about my registrations, my privacy statement and the complaints procedure.

What others write

“Neela’s warmth, intelligence and sense of humor ensure that sessions move deep with her, but never feel heavier than necessary. Thanks to her acceptance I have been able to practice with her to tend to even the most vulnerable things. I admire her attentiveness to the tiniest unconscious movements, which on closer examination often proved to be an efficient entry point into the processing of painful experiences from my earliest childhood.” ~ Indra

“The sessions with Neela are an interesting mix of science and spirituality.” ~ Chris

“The most special thing about Neela is her presence. She’s there, without judgment. She gives back what she perceives, she chooses her words carefully and checks with me whether it is correct. I often cry in the sessions, I think because she makes me feel that everything, absolutely EVERYTHING is welcome. I have never experienced it in this way with a therapist before. I also like that she offers many different working methods, sometimes very playful, and there is also room for lightness and humor. The sessions have made me feel more open and I dare to feel more deeply what moves (in) me.” ~ Yvonne

“Neela is a super nice person, she works caring with a lot of loving attention. She attunes well and doesn’t fill in too much. I learn a lot from her and I have profound insights every session.” ~ Ariadne